Now, if you are in some kind of difficulty with a certain person, then this exercise can help you have some insight into the perspective or point of view of that other person.
So, first get your personal or spiritual notebook (or journal), and then write down your thoughts about the problem or the situation. It does not have to be a “conflict”, just like when tragedy happens to both of you, then you can widen your perspective by using this practice to see what insight you can have on the other person’s thoughts, feelings and beliefs, to mention a few as aspects of the personality.
Now, you can set up three chairs. Two of the chairs would face each other, and the other chair is somewhat the observer’s chair (so position as desirable for the “observer”). Or if you choose to do so, you can use your imagination to picture out the scenes of this scenario.
Now, when you sit in the first chair, begin to imagine that other person is facing you, sitting in the chair directly opposite you. You are facing and gazing on each other. So ask yourself-how do I feel? And what do I want to say? And what do I want to happen? Of course, after that, you have to get your notebook to write down your personal insights.
And then, move to the chair directly opposite to your first chair. So now, imagine yourself sitting in the first chair, and imagine that you are the other person. So practice your empathy-imagine and pretend to be the other person. Try to see from his or her perspective (or point of view). As the other person, what are your feelings? What do you want? What do you desire? What are you thinking? What is his or her perspective about the situation or the problem? What do you feel (as the other person)? Now after that, get your notebook and write down your insights.
Lastly, move to the last chair. You are someone who is outside the situation, an observer-and a wise observer at that. From this perspective, ask yourself: what is it that I see? What do I want for both persons sitting in the other chairs? What important things do they need to remember? After asking yourself these questions thoroughly and with deep reflection, write down the new discoveries and even old insights that are important on your notebook or journal.